The Gay Best Friend



G.B.F, Comedy, Directed by Darren Stein.

          The Reelout Film Festival gave myself a great chance to increase and enhance my knowledge and a chance to look back at myself on homosexual identities. I was attracted to the high school background of this film and when I found out that this film was centered on the struggles of homosexual identities, I purchased my ticket without any hesitations. G.B.F, an acronym for Gay Best Friend, is a great movie that shows a precise reflection of what high school life is centered in today’s society and possibly a great solid example of how homosexual identities are represented and treated. The film G.B.F. deals with the struggles of teenage homosexual identities on surviving the high school life and challenges to change perspectives of people who view homosexual identities differently or as an object, this film greatly achieved on the objectification of gay identities.

          G.B.F is a very classy, adorable, enjoyable and light film focused on the events between homosexual identities and the three queen bees of the school, the perfect blonde fashionista Fawcett, the drama-club glamazon Caprice, and religious princess Shley. In the beginning, the two homosexual identities in the film, Tanner and Brent were trying to find the other gay friends of their own on their mobile app, when on the school ground making a gay best friend became the new trend and the ultimate standard to be the prom queen of the year. LGBT club uses the same application to track down gay people in the school and leads Tanner to come out. Tanner being the first to come out in school, the three queen bees start their work to ‘possess’ Tanner to be their best friend.

          This film deals with the intersections of homosexuals and the stereotypes that were upon their identities. Moreover, I realized two evident factors that were clearly presented in the film: unbelievable amounts of societal stereotypes placed on homosexuals, objectification and the different looks upon homosexual identities, the important vocabulary I used in the previous paragraph is the word ‘possess’. Knowing that having a gay best friend is the new ‘trend’, the three queen bees tries to possess Tanner, the first gay to come out. Fawcett, Caprice and Shley were clearly showing their shallow knowledge of homosexual identities. “Wanna go sip extra-large low fat ice coffees and talk shit about people?”, “that was like 4 texts ago”, my personal favorite quotes from this film, and I find this a great example of how the society thinks of homosexuals because society has a stereotype that gay men are girlish and feminine. Gossiping, texting quickly and sipping extra-large low fat ice coffees may be my own stereotypes, but is a common action done by females. Adding on, other quote such as ‘we will totally gay you over” is a clear evidence that the society has a clear image of how gay men should look dress and behave like. Also, my point on objectification of gay men were clearly shown in these quotes: “Maybe everyone secretly wants a G.B.F.” everyone ‘wanting’ a G.B.F. How can you possibly ‘want’ a person? It feels like they are classifying gay men as a fashion accessory that they can always take it by their sides. However, this was clearly summed up in the film, “It seems that many of you girls are treating Tanner as more of a prize to be won than an actual person.” clearly and enough said.

          Some people may find this film a danger to the society because this film uses humor as a tool to emphasize the problems of homosexual identities and I also do really find this as a problem, but on the other side of thought thinks that if they didn’t use humor, I don’t think this movie would’ve got a good attention from the ‘straight’ people. Some people have a very good knowledge on how homosexuals live everyday of their life, but it is clear that some people in society are not. On my opinion, types of films such as G.B.F is targeting audience who are actually not too familiar with the reality of gay men but full of stereotypes. Therefore, having a high school background struggling on relationships is a great topic that most teenagers can relate with and especially using humor to emphasize stereotypes can give some people a chance to look back on how might they have acted and thought the same of homosexual identities. Though this film used a lot of humor to emphasize homosexual stereotypes, I don’t think it is a danger to the society because the film actually cleared up that those stereotypes are wrong and negative.

          The ultimate message in this film is that society is treating homosexual identities differently compared to heterosexuals. Some societies ban gay relationships and puts on stereotypes and regulations on one’s sexual desires. When someone identifies themselves as ‘gay’, some people will soon look at that person with a stereotype. And this is the major problem of our society when we are the same people after all.

          As I identify myself as a ‘straight’ person, my experience with Reelout Film Festival was very enjoyable and educational. It was a great opportunity to look back at myself and my thoughts and stereotypes that I had towards homosexual identities. This was a first time that I participated in a cultural event like the Reelout Film Festival, and I felt amazing because everyone in this screening room was accepting of other identities and careful of stereotypes. I sometimes feel very uncomfortable in social events because some people are extremely rude and unconscious of their word choices such as “that is so gay“. However, knowing that I am in a place full of people who are similar to myself, I felt very safe and accepted. Even if I am not one of the homosexual members of this society, I felt accepted, and I believe this is what everyone should feel in every circumstances and events of their lives. 


Stein, Darren, dir. G.B.F.. School Pictures, 2013. Film.




  1. You’ve raised a lot of good points. Your points highlighted the issue surrounding stereotypes in terms of using them for convenient purposes. Calling someone “gay” is not offensive if he or she identifies themselves as homosexual. It becomes offensive when “gay” becomes a term linked to a list a constructed stereotypes that make it easier for society to quickly identify what exactly a “gay” person is. As you’ve brought up, the problems that a homosexual person may face in the everyday life are surely different from a heterosexual, as the movie clearly demonstrates. The issue now becomes clearer: the term “gay” becomes offensive when it’s used to categorize people as if it makes one human being so outrageously different than another human being.

  2. I agree with 12sg60 but I believe that we cannot separate the word “gay” from the stereotypes that surround it. When people think of someone who is gay, we picture a feminine boy who plays into all of the stereotypes brought up in this film. It is impossible to separate these stereotypes from this term. I believe that the only way we can do so is to use a different term. “Queer” is the politically correct term when referring to those who are homosexual, bisexual, asexual, pansexual, etc. These gay stereotypes are embedded so deeply in society that we simply cannot get rid of them.

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